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Post by juliabick on Nov 23, 2012 10:59:04 GMT 1
Hello all
Sorry I haven't been around much in the last 6mths, things have been mad at work and I haven't had time to sit down, let alone catch up with everyone on here.
I hope everyone is well. I'm just about to read through all the posts so may be popping up on some of those in the next few days!
My boy is going out on full-loan from tomorrow to the girl who has part-loaned him for quite a while. I know he will be well looked after and she is getting on really well with him. That will give me time for my work life to calm down slightly, and then to get back on a lovely safe cob at my local RS to try to get the confidence back after my fall in Feb this year which resulted in a broken coccyx.
I've just applied to join Avril's waiting list for a complete saint (hmmm... I guess that's what everyone is asking for!).
Julia
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Post by janebaily on Nov 23, 2012 15:48:27 GMT 1
Hi Julia,
Glad you are back. Things seem to be working out for you so, fingers crossed, this will continue. Its horrible when your confidence goes. I broke my back in my early twenties (many, many, many years ago!!!). jumped the spread and the horse did'nt, then the horse did. It all happened in seconds and i just happened to be under the fence poles and the horse. I have jumped since, although its not really 'my thing', but i would only jump uprights and not spreads, mad i know. You may find you will eventually seize-up in your lower back.
I really hope you find your perfect friend, which i am sure you will from Avril, as she knows her horses inside out (its quite spooky really lol).
Please keep us all informed if you have time, as i am sure everyone would love to know how you progress.
Very best wishes Jane and Elda xx
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Post by janebaily on Nov 23, 2012 16:01:38 GMT 1
Sorry Julia, when i said seize-up in your lower back, i did'nt mean completely. It sounded dreadful. I still ride fine, its just that i am very stiff in my lower back and try to get on and off whilst no one is looking!!! In fact when i get off Elda at the gate to our yard after a longish ride, i walk down the track and round the corner like Dick Emery, as soon as i enter the yard i spring around like the duracel bunny if anyones there, thinking must get home sharpish and take a couple of paracetamol!! See what you have to look forward to, i always like to cheer people up lol. xx
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Post by nellie on Nov 24, 2012 10:34:16 GMT 1
Hi Julia! Welcome back! It's lovely to hear from you again  . I like your plan of action, it sounds very sensible but also leaves the door open to getting back into the saddle, safely, comfortably and happily for you without the pressure of thinking you ought to be "just getting on with it" by getting back onto your own horse and, of course, pressure like that does not help at all! It sounds as if he has a good relationship with his loaner so you must feel as if you are doing the right thing by everyone, your loaner, your horse and you - wonderful! Work is a terrible bind, eating into horse hours... oh, I mean family time  (just in case my husband ever reads this!) but it has to be done to pay for our hobby/passion/obsession (sigh!). I work far too hard and by the time I have done a full week at work, spent as much time as possible with Mina bearing in mind my husband also appears to still want to see me, there's very little time for catching up on MSC but I SO enjoy it when I do get the chance. Hope you have a lovely read and I look forward to your comments . Good luck with everything, Helen |
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Post by anakin14 on Nov 25, 2012 15:34:49 GMT 1
Hi Julia welcome back!! That's a shame that manny is going out on full loan  but good that you are going to be able to get yourself sorted out! You never realise how much of a drain having a horse is until you have a day off from it all. I am glad to hear your back is a little better x |
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Post by juliabick on Apr 29, 2013 21:10:20 GMT 1
Hello all again!
Another update from me. After a lot of soul searching I have decided to sell Manny and look for a new horse. The catalyst was last weekend's Windsor ride. I was jealous of everyone doing it, and wanted to do it myself. But I didn't want to do it on Manny. That told me that I was ready to get back in the saddle and it was time to do what I should have done a long time ago.
I had issues with Manny from day one but rode through them - did I ever enjoy riding through them? In all honesty, no.
The summer before I came off I was out every weekend at a different sponsored ride or other and had a great time, and Manny took his confidence from me so he behaved - win win.
The problems came after I fell off and I lost all confidence. Again Manny looked to me for confidence (he relies a lot on his rider) but when I couldn't show it he panicked. His panic manifested into behaviours (such as napping) that dented my confidence even more, and we were in a downward spiral.
He is a complete angel and suitable for the most novice of riders, but he cannot cope with the nervous - he relies too much on his rider to give him confidence. I love him to bits and am desperate to find him a great home - it's not his fault that I am a complete wuss! I was hoping his loaner would buy him but unfortunately she can't afford it as she is still paying off a very large vets bill.
But on the plus side - and I hope this doesn't sound to callous as it's really not as if I can't find Manny the right home I will keep him on with his full-loaner - I am in touch with Avril to look at leasing Blue if she feels we would work as a partnership.
There is something about him that keeps drawing me back to his picture and advert - I'm not sure what it is - perhaps fate - but there is a gut feel with him that I have found the horse I should always have had. And that is without meeting him!
I am a happy hacker and always wanted a horse I could just go out and enjoy the countryside with - whether alone or in company. That was not Manny - he was always high maintenance hacking and I could never just relax. There is just something about Blue that I can't put my finger on.
It's funny as my friend found her boy the same way - she just kept returning to his picture and just knew. She had been through a similar scenario but in her case she had been hospitased by an unsuitable horse.
So fingers crossed my journey may be both over, and just starting! I've just realised what an essay this is, so my apologies. I will, of course, keep you all updated.
Julia
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Post by sarah on Apr 30, 2013 9:25:53 GMT 1
Julia, lovely to hear from you again.
I think you have made a very wise decision - riding should be fun, and something to look forward to.
Blue really does seem like a wonderful soul, and I cant wait to hear your thoughts when you have had the chance to meet him.
Good Luck, and please keep us posted with your news.
Best wishes,
Sarah. xx
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Post by anakin14 on May 1, 2013 13:44:11 GMT 1
Hi Julia, good to hear from you. I'm sorry to hear about Manny, but it sounds like it may be for the best. I hope you find your soulmate x |
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Post by em on May 1, 2013 15:07:41 GMT 1
Oh julia
That all sounds very exciting news.. keep us posted on Blue x x x x
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Post by juliabick on May 3, 2013 21:26:28 GMT 1
Hi guys
Unfortunately I've missed out on Blue - it's not a massive shock that he has been snapped up already but I was hoping he wouldn't be as there was just something about him that kept drawing me back.
On the plus side I have taken the spare space for the May course, so that is something to look forward to.
There is a sense of relief and calm about me now I have made the decision that Manny isn't the horse for me and I am quite excited about the journey to come of finding and getting to know my soulmate.
I must admit to having a covert eye on Custard - but at 5'7 and 13st I don't think I quite class as the smaller adult mentioned! For me it's very much the smaller the better, I can't believe the size of the horses I rode in my youth. Now I have to scramble on, the nearer to the ground the less indignity all round!
I have decided to keep Manny rather than sell as I found that I just couldn't let him go. I love him to bits and it's not his fault he is not right for me. This way I can secure his future and when the time comes for him to retire from work he will become a giant lawnmower. For now I will find someone with more confidence than me to ride him. So it looks like I will be becoming one of those two horse people - I always wondered how that happened!
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Post by sarah on May 4, 2013 13:10:00 GMT 1
Sorry you missed out on Blue, but I am sure the right one is out there waiting to meet you.
Best wishes,
Sarah. xx
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(just in case my husband ever reads this!) but it has to be done to pay for our hobby/passion/obsession (sigh!). I work far too hard and by the time I have done a full week at work, spent as much time as possible with Mina bearing in mind my husband also appears to still want to see me, there's very little time for catching up on MSC but I SO enjoy it when I do get the chance.
but good that you are going to be able to get yourself sorted out! You never realise how much of a drain having a horse is until you have a day off from it all. I am glad to hear your back is a little better x